What is the Best Treatment for Codependency?
Codependency treatment is important because if you look behind addictions, dis-empowering and self-destructive thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors and many mental disorders, you will find at their core is codependency. This is a term that is now familiar in the mainstream recovery center treatment modalities, but what exactly is it? Common definitions of codependency are a person who is a martyr, a caretaker or someone married to an addict of one type or another. Codependency can be this, but it is so much more, and just like untreated addictions, it kills.
Codependency at its core is when a person gives his or her power away to a person, place or thing to the detriment of his or her own needs. Essentially, it is a harmful, dysfunctional relationship—whether it be with a person or substance. Although giving of oneself and even self-sacrifice are necessary at times, when this behavior becomes a way of living life, this is called codependency. Another simple definition of codependency is an unequal exchange of energy between people; when one person is habitually giving more in a relationship than the other. Codependency is based in a core fear that the world is unsafe. This is a very real fear that many people learn as “truth” when growing up in dysfunctional homes. Often codependent behaviors include the need to control, manipulate, obsess, and worry about external circumstances in order to feel safe.